At a certain point in life people get to exchange vows. For some it is out of pressure from other sources. There are some that did not want to get married at all. They do it because they are expected to do so and makes them safe. Many people assume that it is what other people expect of them. It ends up being a lovely wedding but not a lovely marriage. No need to panic because this is okay. Below is what kids need to be told about divorce.
It important to know that you don’t fall in love with someone who is potential. Most of the people don’t even reach their potential. This could be because of inability or out of choice. Potential is something that is limiting. People look at what they see there and then. This is what everyone can see. This is a mistake that most people make with their ex boyfriends at least once. You viewed them as having the potential and are everything you wanted in life. You admired the way they talked, walked and after some time it became just another story.
Many people love the idea of getting married.
However, marriage can be tough even if it’s healthy and functional. Despite both of you doing your best and making sure that everything is right, you will still meet some rough patches. It is essential that your kids know that divorce does not mean that you are doing the wrong things. Abuse can happen at times. It could be because of miscommunication. The other reason could be irreconcilable differences. Divorce is something that is based on genuine reasons. There are times when parents just have to do what they got to do and stop beating themselves up. There is no point in regretting about everything because at some point this person brought you much joy.
It is important to acknowledge the fact that divorce can be devastating. However, staying in a marriage for the sake of your kids or other potential reasons can make one live in resentment, fear and failure of enjoying your life. There are actually some who end up salvaging their marriages by going for couple counseling. However, for some divorce is left as the only alternative.
Couples are allowed to change their minds and do what is best for them. Every person is free to make their choices to make despite the world being so judgemental. Parents need to tell their kids that they have not failed and some things are better left that way. Divorce is a painful process. However, it can hurt more to stay in a marriage you are not happy at all. You will keep thinking about the risks that you did not take and the freedom that you can get from being free. This is what can hurt the most which can be toxic.